Parent-Friend Ideology Examples
4- year-old has a tantrum in the store because they want candy. Dad quickly buys the candy and gives it to them to eat immediately.
5- year-old at his younger siblings birthday party gets presents as well because the parents don’t want them to feel bad that it isn’t their birthday.
8-year-old- “I don’t like this meal. Casseroles are disgusting”. Parent “O.k. what would you like me to make for you? Mac & Cheese or a hot dog?”
Father goes to his 12-year-old son’s basketball game and afterwards says. “Son you need to shoot more and pass less. You’re so much better than everyone else.”
13-year-old son forgot his homework and texts mom- Mom leaves work and goes home and drops it off at school.
14-year-old- to mom “I have to sell candy bars for the volleyball team.” Moms response. “Don’t worry honey. I’ll take them to work and sell them for you.”
15-year-old- “I don’t understand my math homework! Well it’s because your math teacher isn’t teaching you properly. Here give me the pencil let me do it for you.”
A father can’t even watch a football game with 16-year-old son because he’s on the phone the entire time texting.
17-year-old daughter- Mom I want more guy’s to like me. –Mom pays for cosmetic surgery.
16-year-old shows up wasted to school dance. Parents are mad at the district, not their child. They worry something permanent will go on record and hurt their chances at college.
Parents to 18-year-old “Do you want to have a party at the house? Mom and I are going away over the weekend. Just make sure nobody drives themselves home.”
Parents are increasingly calling college professors to discuss grades.
I am not by any means a parenting expect. Nor the perfect parent. I’ve made plenty of mistakes. I just wonder how this new parenting philosophy that empowers kids is not going to have a negative effect on our society. Why is it that more student’s are dropping out of college? The U.S. suicide rates among teens is astoundingly high. Is it because kids just aren’t able to handle anything on their own anymore? Too many parents swoop down and solve their problems for them. I am by no means claiming that it is as simple as a different parent raising ideology but I feel that it is part of the problem.
A refusal to correct is a refusal to love;
love your children by disciplining them.
Discipline your children while you still have the chance; indulging them destroys them.